WAITING TO BLOOM

You all know there comes a time in a woman's life when things change,relationships change,priorities change etc. There comes a time when a woman desires to have a family and doesn't desire relationships anymore or rather doesn't desire to keep trying to see what or which one work. All this kind of a woman wants is just one man...one to just give her all the attention she needs,one that can be her best friend,one that can understand her,one that loves God with his everything which is first to this kind of a woman, a man that will love her for her not trying to change her or comparing her with other women,a man that will adore her, one that will love her with his everything and will fight for her even when situations are hard and have the same kind of goals,purpose and desires as her, a man that can accommodate her and welcome her into his purpose, a man that will have the same kind of passion as Her's when chasing each other. The bible says whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from God...simple and clear as that. There comes a time when this kind of woman will date only one man that she desires because she wants to build a family and a home with this man. Remember as a woman you have been created to be a carrier and an incubator and you give birth to a seed. Your seed is blessed and chosen by God even before its birthed. Waiting on God and waiting in God sometimes maybe difficult and I have been in this position too, I am still in it so you realise you are not alone in this.. There comes a time when all your friends are getting married and having babies and nothing seems to happen for you.  Don't give up. Here is what you need to remember during this season:

1. Trust In God and wait patiently
We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now...not later. When it doesn't happen that way, we are tempted to ask, "When, God, when?" Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the "when" question. If you're missing joy and peace, you're not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you're not trusting God. We prove that we trust in God when we refuse to worry.  Many of us want the change but don't want to go through the process of waiting. Patience is a fruit of the Holy Spirit(Galatians 5:22).  it will happen when it happens, in God’s perfect timing. I’ve heard it said “it will happen when you least expect it,” or “you should get involved in ministry so you can find a husband.” The first one is just wrong and while the ministry is a great place to find husbands, we must be careful about our motivations.

2. Serve God
Being single is a ministry,  it's a time to devote yourself in prayer and reading the word.  We were created to have a relationship with God. We need and desire the unconditional love of our Savior and Creator. Only God can fulfill that need for love. If we are not turning to God to fill that hole in our hearts, we will desperately look elsewhere for that love.Too often we think a man will do the trick. This leads to despair in singleness and desperation to find a man. When you’re feeling lonely, talk to Him and ask Him to help you get through all the complicated emotions that come with being single. He wants to be there for you, He wants you to turn to him and He will come through for you always.

3. Do something( Get busy)

Don’t fight and struggle against it. Don’t deny it. Don’t despair. Trust that in the meantime, in the not knowing, in the “not yet,” in the becoming. There is great joy, purpose and hope for it. Embrace the beautiful uncertainty of your season of waiting, knowing that somehow, someday. someway, an answer is on its way. Only a wise son understands seasons and Time. Work on your purpose,  go to work,  go for work or business seminars, do something fun, love on yourself,  visit places, read books,  attend conferences and learn what it is you have to know about marriage etc.